• Claire Cook

#66 | Results from 4th April

Here are the results from yesterday’s Mobilise Moments poll.

The positives of caring

Yesterday we asked: In your experience, what are the most positive parts of caring?

Being an unpaid carer, can at points feel overwhelming or stressful (MM#63). We can feel lonely, and many of us have experienced poor mental (MM#59) and/or physical health (MM#61).

With this in mind, it can be helpful to focus on some of the positive aspects of caring. Bringing us some balance and shining a light on the 'good stuff'.

Creating a good life

Within the responses, there was a really strong sense of 'being able to create a good life for the person we care for', allowing them to 'reach and live their full potential'.

"Seeing an empty plate after taking special care over a meal for the cared-for."
"Seeing the benefit of the care reflected in the smiles of the one being cared for."
"Knowing you have done your best making the other person feel and achieve the best life possible"

Love and relationships

For many of us, it felt good to 'give back' to someone who had previously looked after us (such as a parent). And many of us enjoy the closeness of the relationship we have with our cared-for.

"Having time with loved ones, being able to give something back."
"Developing a better relationship with my mum. Have taken up crafting again while watching the TV with mum - everyone had knitted goods for Christmas!"
"Getting to spend plenty of quality time with the person I care for, my husband. Knowing that I am making a difference to his life."
"Being there to help someone I love and who has meant a great deal to me over decades."
"Having a close bond with my daughter, always being there for her ❤️ xx"

Appreciating time

Some of us highlighted our new appreciation for time, and what can be achieved.

"That 10 minutes when I can put my feet up with a cuppa and 2 biscuits."
"Appreciating free time in a whole new way"

Personal Growth

And for some of us, our personal growth was noticed and appreciated. Including how caring has helped us to develop our own personal skills. Including resourcefulness, appreciation and confidence.

"Able to slow down and appreciate the small things."
"Learning I have greater inner resources than I knew."
"I know what's important in life now. I have confidence, I never knew I had - I'm a strong advocate. You really grow as a person - advocacy, compassion,emotional intelligence. I'm a better person of this experience."

It can be valuable to focus on the positives each day. And gratitude practice is something we include in our weekly virtual cuppa on a Monday. Spending 5 minutes each day, practising gratitude, can really help our wellbeing. For more inspiration on gratitude practice, check out our blog on creating a positivity toolkit as a carer.

Get support in your caring role, contact your local carer centre. Find out who is closest using this nifty tool from the Carers Trust.

If you were forwarded this page and you look after someone, you might like to contribute to a better understanding of unpaid carers. Sign-up for free to take part in Mobilise Moments today.