The 5 secrets of resilient caring
When we are looking after someone we often dive into the practical, medical and emotional things that need attention. Over the past couple of weeks many of us have leapt into action to help those we care about and this was probably exactly what needed to happen.
Please take a breath (you are doing a great job!). I've been listening to a lot of carers and they've been sharing how they have built resilience in the face of the challenges caused by the Coronavirus outbreak. So I'm letting you in on their secrets:
1. Look after yourself - your physical and mental health have never been more important. Even if you can't quite get round to doing something about this now knowing that you matter is a good first step. Perhaps you are already doing something that helps, keep going. Small changes can make a big difference: exercise, a moment of relaxation, an extra glass of water, a news switch off can all help.
2. Have someone you can really talk to. Someone who will listen and not try to fix your problems or tell you about theirs. A friend, family member or even a complete stranger from a support organisation might be right for you. You can also book a 30 minute 1-1 support call with me and talk about whatever you need to talk about. https://calendly.com/mobilisecare/carers-conversation
3. Ask for help - particularly getting shopping and prescriptions. If friends and family can help do accept their offers and tell them what would help you most. In the UK check your local council's website for updates on resilience hubs and voluntary action groups. You can also search this database for help near you - https://covidmutualaid.org
4. Build a new routine that works for you - not a regimented plan but something that gives your day structure, purpose and joy - you will feel more in control. If you need some help getting started download our simple weekly planning template for carers. You will find a link on yesterday's blog https://www.mobiliseonline.co.uk/post/weekly-routine-planner
5. Be part of a community (online or virtual) - contribute to it with what you can do rather than focusing just on what you can't do. You are very welcome to join the Mobilise Community Facebook group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/Mobilisecommunity/
Of course these things shouldn't be kept secret! Please share them with others that you know who are looking after someone. Perhaps you have got something to add, please drop me an email firstname.lastname@example.org