Kindness is thriving

Carers' have shown that kindness is thrives in the Mobilise community. We've pulled together some of the many benefits of kindness, plus an insight into just a few of the kind deeds our community have been involved with.

Why not pop a kind deed on your 'to-do' list every day. We promise it doesn't feel like work - but will bring a smile to your face.

The benefits of being kind

When so much is out of our control as a carer, "giving kindness" is something completely within our control. And what is more, we directly benefit too!

Aside from just being a lovely thing to do, being kind has proven benefits for our mental health.

"Studies have found that being kind is linked to increased feelings of happiness, wellbeing, and life satisfaction" - Mental health org
"Giving also connects us to others, creating stronger communities and helping to build a happier society for everyone. And it's not all about money - we can also give our time, ideas and energy." - Action for Happiness

Kindness seems to be one of those magic things, the more we use it the more there is available. Even under the strange circumstances of lock down and in the busiest of times, for some, kindness has thrived. It has been really uplifting to take a moment to notice it.

What does kindness look like?

Kind deeds can vary in size, but all bring benefits to both the person receiving and the person giving kindness. Examples can include:

  • Thanking someone for their help

  • Volunteering with a charity

  • Taking a loved-one/ cared-for a cup of tea in bed

  • Expressing forgiveness

  • Making our teenager's bed or clearing the cups from their bedroom!

  • Running a bath for our loved one / cared-for

  • Being inclusive

Carers and their families caught in the act of kindness

We thought it would be inspiring to both honour and share a few of the kind deeds we have witnessed in our carers' community.

Setting up a scheme to help vulnerable people

One carer initiated a scheme with a local charity during lockdown. The organisation helped vulnerable residents, elderly and disabled.

A great idea she suggested was to write letters to people who could not participate, such as those who couldn't benefit from telephone befriending services.

"I write to a lady who is deaf and cannot be befriended via phone. I felt my own experience of health disability and being a carer helped me to recognise what isolation feels like, and show kindness to initiate this. The scheme is growing locally."

Reaching out to lonely neighbours

"This last week my son showed kindness to a local neighbour resident here who we knew nothing about, but appears very shy and on her own in the NHS clap for carers nights. He wanted us to drop her a card and he offered to bake for her."

Carers also showed kindness to neighbours, adding their shopping to their own online shop, baking cakes, dropping off meals and treats. Others have been able to buy extra food items to donate to the food bank.

How it feels to receive kindness

From being made a cup of tea, handmade cards, gifts of plants, to a call from friends, family or a voluntary organisation - we are noticing kindness all around us.

My favourite example was one of our cuppa participants who had been given a second hand (but good condition) kitchen from their next door neighbours!

And how are we showing kindness to ourselves?

Here's a little list of ways carers are finding to be kind to themselves - there might be something new here to try:

  • Something frivolous: A cheeky can of cocktail with the supermarket shop, in the fridge ready for later; buying a new notebook (I’m sure it’s not just me that gets joy from stationery!) and chocolate cake

  • A meet up with a friend or family member that we have been missing

  • A takeaway coffee

  • Words of kindness to ourselves: Just taking each day as it comes - not every day will be one where we tick things off and achieve something - that is ok; let other people be kind to you; take the time to tell ourselves “I am alright, I am enough”; not comparing ourselves to others, or the expectations that others have on us. Our guide to 'self-love' may really help.

  • Things to add to our weekly routine: a nice long bath; take myself outside more; a bit more structure about when people can call me; a Joe Wicks workout, a yoga session or some simple laps up and down the garden path; making a promise to myself - go on a walk every day and stick to it.

For more kindness inspiration, the Random Acts of Kindness website has a kindness calendar with daily ideas.

And we would love to hear more carer kindness stories over in our Facebook group or in our virtual cuppas! There's so much uplifts for us to share. What act of kindness have you received or given lately?