This is a little 'pick me up' blog. For any of us who have quite simply had enough of long dark nights, rain, wind, lockdown and so on.
A collection of things we can do to shift our mood a couple of degrees, which might be all the momentum we need for things to keep moving in the right direction.
1. Get outside if you can
And especially if the sun is out! Soak up some much needed vitamin D, feel the breeze, enjoy the crisp air, and marvel at the beauty of winter. Take a mindful walk round your area, noticing the small stuff, the few red berries on the bare tree, the frosty cobwebs.
Why not try Forest Bathing, an ancient Japanese method of being calm in nature. Believed to invoke feelings of calm and to be a natural wellbeing boost.
Put it in the diary! Making sure our daily walk is in our diary, is a helpful way to ensure it actually happens, and the time doesn't get eaten up with other responsibilities.
Get accountability! We might want to consider signing up to a little challenge, to support a new walking habit. A quick 'google' will bring up lots of 'virtual' walking challenges, where you can commit to a specified number or miles over a certain timeframe. You get to be part of a supportive community and can track how far you've gone.
For those of us unable to get outside, why not do some virtual forest bathing. While we might not benefit from the vitamin D and full sensory experience, there is certainly something very calming about these images.
2. Practise Gratitude
Find 3 things each day, that we're grateful for. The roof over our head, our health, that perfect cuppa, a phone call with a friend, our comfy bed, our hot shower. Practising this every day, is a wonderful way to shift the balance. And as the saying goes.....
"Your get more of what you focus on"
And that really is the beauty of gratitude practise. Once we've really got going, we notice more and more to be grateful for and it can really lift our spirits. If we capture our gratitudes in a little notebook, then they make the perfect read on a tough day.
"I always read my gratitude journal when I'm feeling low. It really lifts me. It reminds me that good things can and do happen."
Treat ourselves to a new and beautiful notepad - who doesn't love new stationary? Find a time each day that works for us. For me, I love to do this at bedtime, it sets me up for happy dreams! It can take a few days or even weeks to embed a new habit. By making sure we choose a 'good' time of day for us, we can associate the new habit with good vibes, rather than just 'another thing to do'.
3. Stay connected
Have a daily action to reach out to people every day. Carers can experience great levels of isolation, and this may be heightened during lockdown. Make sure that you're reaching out to people and places that enhance your wellbeing. Here's a snapshot of how many of the carers in our community are staying connected via technology.
Ways our community stay connected:
Simple WhatsApp chats with friends and family. It can feel like less pressure than an actual phone call, and can be as simple as sharing fun stuff, like pictures and memes.
"My sister and I watched all of the Friday night 'the show must go on musicals' - we sent each other messages the whole way through - chatting about the costumes, songs and childhood memories - we were brought up on musicals! It was really uplifting."
Chat in a safe and uplifting online community. Many carers find our Facebook community a helpful place to hang out and reach out to other carers.
Join a Virtual Cuppa. Many local carers centres and support groups started running virtual cuppas to support us through the pandemic. Mobilise have held daily virtual cuppas since the start of the first lockdown! We discuss all sorts and always end with some uplift! If you haven't joined one yet, we would love to meet you! If you need any help on the technical side, then please do check out our digital skills for carers page.
Grab our diaries again! Pop in a daily connection, whether that's a virtual cuppa, a WhatsApp message, a walk with a friend (when allowed!) or a simple 'hi' in a safe online community.
Embedding good habits
It can take a while for new habits to embed. Don't give up. When you do notice you've forgotten, congratulate yourself for noticing!
We've prepared a daily checklist to help us! We can print this off, save it to our own device to use online, or simply copy it into our diaries. We can also add other daily habits we would like to take up!
If your feeling really low
Please reach out. We offer free 1:1 calls with our carer support team. A friendly ear, the opportunity to get clarity around muddled thoughts, or simply just to connect.
If you're in immediate crisis you can also access:
Samaritans: Available 24 hours a day by phone
Shout: available 24 hours a day via text
Text SHOUT to 85258